What I meant to say was…..
So a couple of weeks ago my pastor was preaching about God’s forgiveness and mercy to man. And trying to explain it he used the following example:
Picture God as a judge, one day they bring into his court a man accused of speeding. Only the man standing before the judge is also his son. The judge listens to the testimony of those involved, considers the evidence and because he is a just judge he is left with no choice but to declare his verdict. Guilty.
And then the judge rises, he takes off his robe, steps down from the bench and goes to his son. He pulls out his check book and pays the fine. Now forget for right now the whole “the wages of sin is death” argument vs. some little fine that’s not the point of this.
A buddy of mine, sitting not ten feet away hearing this says to me the other day “this really bothered me. I feel like he’s saying just asking for forgiveness makes everything ok, like God is going to step in and make it all go away”. After a little probing it came out that this friend had a cousin that had created a bit of trouble with the law and their Grandfather being what some would consider wealthy and having some connections in the community was able to grease the wheels as it were & made it go away. So based on this past experience he takes this to mean that our pastor is saying that if your a Christian there are no consequences to your actions.( we can talk about that in the comments section, because that is not what I think the Pastor was saying)
Too much inside baseball
But here is where I’m going with this(talk about burying the lead). So often we, yes me included, say things that because of our background, history, education, and prejudices, seem so clear. We use terms, language metaphor that makes so much sense to us, but is like speaking Latin to the person we are talking to. Worse we sometimes can use language that not only doesn’t make sense to the person we are talking to but even pushes someone away that we are trying so hard to pull close.
would use a great example of poor communication:
- What if what you meant to say was ” what’s bothering you”. And instead you said “What’s wrong with you” think that might bring a different response?
- Or how about ” we need to spend more time in the Word”. How small would you have to be?
Sometimes we don’t know who may be listening or what in their background may cause them to put the emphasis on the wrong sylable. Sure I get it we can’t make our speech perfect for everyone all the time, but we owe it to our families, friends, and especially our God to do our best to communicate to the best of our abilities.
Wouldn’t it be a horrible thing to find out someone turned their back on the Father all because of something you or I said. What if it wasn’t even what we were trying to communicate? What have you said that wasn’t what you meant? How did you fix it?